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Re: How to recover after job lost but having a family

PostPosted: Tue Mar 12, 2013 11:13 am
by Susan Doumbos
Lozza,

You rock!

Re: How to recover after job lost but having a family

PostPosted: Fri Mar 15, 2013 2:58 am
by eskimos
Thanks for nice reply, really I am looking for some friends who show me how to do reconciliation with your "previous" life and start to "enjoy" a new life with MS. I read the book and I picked up that this kind of exercise is very useful to general healing, so I am just searching for some advice.
I read nice article in the MS magazine "in Touch" about couple when a men has MS and his wife is a full time carer. He is still quite mobile. They travel, do fishing and seems to have nice life. I am simple jealous. I do not know how they can make it from disability and carer pension. Oh I forgot their children are independent now, it makes probably big difference. I am doing what I can do but unfortunately there still is a stress that from person who give I become a person who take, but there is none out there who can give me much help, my wife is exhausted, my kids are quite young, my family is far far away (but that is good ;-)). Thing went a bit different that I planed, and it is my responsibility to worked out the best possible solution, I am nearly there with OMS but sill far away with daily living.
So If anybody can share some suggestion I will highly appreciate it.

cheers
Martin

Re: How to recover after job lost but having a family

PostPosted: Fri Mar 15, 2013 3:18 am
by Wendy:M
Martin, you say you have a copy of the book - read Chapter 19, where the first few pages deal with how to face up to, and cope with that sense of loss that you describe. Expressing grief can be a very healing thing and then opens the way for healing to start to take place.

Re: How to recover after job lost but having a family

PostPosted: Fri Mar 15, 2013 4:16 am
by The Omsarian
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Re: How to recover after job lost but having a family

PostPosted: Fri Mar 15, 2013 9:09 am
by veg
The best skill I learnt was to pace myself.
If there is a job I want to do I look at how small I can break it down into. Then do one bit at a time and even if I do well I make sure to rest and stick with pacing the job out.
It surprised me that by pacing I managed to do more.
It is to avoid the boom and bust approach of using your energy.
Look at what you can do try to let go dwelling on what you can't do.

Re: How to recover after job lost but having a family

PostPosted: Fri Mar 15, 2013 12:32 pm
by Susan Doumbos
Eskimos,

I am in Melbourne, and there are quite a few other OMS forum members in Melbourne. Would it help you at all to have a coffee somewhere with one/some of us?

Happy to arrange this if you are interested.

Re: How to recover after job lost but having a family

PostPosted: Mon Mar 18, 2013 11:06 pm
by eskimos
Hi Susan,

It maight be good idea, I need to talk with people about it, so I would like to meet with you. We can contact via private massgage to organize a place.
I am looking forward to see you :D .

cheers
Martin

Re: How to recover after job lost but having a family

PostPosted: Tue Mar 19, 2013 11:50 am
by Susan Doumbos
What part of Melbourne are you in Martin?

We have had a small gathering of OMSers last year, and I wonder if anyone else is interested in joining us for coffee sometime soon?

I will private message you Martin.

Re: How to recover after job lost but having a family

PostPosted: Thu Mar 21, 2013 5:34 am
by Rebecca Hoover
I hope that everyone remembers that Swank said that his Swank MS Diet, which precedes Jelinek's work with MS, worked for 95% of his patients. In other words, 95% of his patients got better after starting his diet. He also said that those who started following the Swank diet shortly after diagnosis often lived very long and quite healthy lives with minimal disability. For an excellent video that shows some older Swank dieters in all of their healthy glory, see this link and then compare them to the guy following traditional medicine approaches. (The video starts showing Swank dieters in about the 10th minute.) I think that we know even more about healthy living than Swank knew so I think we can do even better. http://www.drmcdougall.com/video/swank_ms_5th_estate.htm

Rebecca

P.S. Thank you to Dr. John Hovious for bringing this video to my attention.

Re: How to recover after job lost but having a family

PostPosted: Thu Mar 21, 2013 11:11 am
by Lozza
Martin, the National Disability Insurance Scheme Bill passed both houses of Parliament and will soon become law. Lets hope better days are ahead for those facing up to the realities of disability. It might take a while but things are looking up. Hang tough.

PS: Sue, 'tis YOU who rock!

Loz.